Overcoming Life's Challenges and Finishing Strong
Life is full of challenges. Some more difficult than others. I personally have had my share of challenges. My most difficult one, which also made me the strongest, was when I was going through my divorce.
My husband at the time, and my two children, and I owned and lived on a farm with out horses. My kids horse showed and were active in 4H and U.S. Pony Club, as was I. My husband was not a horse person, so he did not really get involved in horses. Over time, my husband and I grew apart. He ended up working many hours and I pursuing my passion, being involved with both my children, horses and the horse community.
If finally came to the point where my husband wanted a divorce. During this time, I was laid off from my part time job, with both children in college. My soon-to-be ex-husband had moved out of the house. Here I was, unemployed, with no place to go with my horses, and my daughter still living with me. (Being unemployed, no one wanted to rent an apartment to me.) Fortunately, my son was living on campus. On top of that, my soon to-be-ex was not paying the mortgage on the farm. Now the lender was continuously calling me, threatening me with foreclosure proceedings if the payments were not made. What do I do now???
The farm was going on the market to be sold. (This all occurred before I started my real estate career.) During all of this, my horse, who was 28 years old, had not fared well during the winter months. It was March and the weather was cold with snow on the ground yet. The one morning, my horse was not eating. All the signs pointed to colic, which can be fatal to horses. Called the veterinarian in for an emergency call. Sure enough. It was colic. We did what we could for him, but ended up putting him down. Such a sad day for me. In hindsight, this was a blessing in disguise. I was concerned about moving him at his age, since he had lived most of his life on this farm. Now, at least I did not have to worry about that. I only had one horse to be concerned with.
Just as things were really looking bleak for me, my horse and my daughter, a friend contacted me. Since her grown children were no longer living with her and her husband, she had a couple of rooms available in their home and we would be welcome to stay there until we were able to find a place to live.
A church member then reached out to me informing me of an apartment for rent. I interviewed with the landlord, being hopeful. He was a nice Christian man and had a good feeling about me. He decided to rent it to me and my daughter. I was also able to find a place for my horse with self-care within the area. Things were beginning to look up.
Throughout this time in my life, I never gave up. I kept my faith and my hope. With each challenge, I grew stronger. I survived.
Brigita McKelvie is a REALTOR® (Pennsylvania License #RS297130) with Cindy Stys Equestrian & Country Properties, specializing in rural and horse properties and farms in Eastern Pennsylvania. She has an e-Pro® (Certified Internet Expert) certification and a GRI (Graduate, REALTOR® Institute) designation.
Brigita McKelvie, REALTOR
Pennsylvania License #RS297130
Rural and Horse Properties and Farms
Cindy Stys Equestrian & Country Properties, Ltd.
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